TORONTO: It can be a romantic comedy between a man and a "mutant".
After a few weeks of flirting online, Patrick Bardos met with Anne Marie Cerato at a cafe in downtown Toronto. Cerato wrote the text, when it was full of traffic when browsing an hour's traffic. Cerato said he had overcome the same intersection. "You're wearing a blue shoe" he asked.
Bardos looked at his sneaker pens, and then he went to seek Cerato's passenger bag. She felt a touch on her shoulder. Bardos was turned, and Cerato was there, as in his profile photo – shaded dark and brown eyes sharpened by rectangular glasses. Always, unlike in previous days, it was higher than it was.
"You're very short," Bardos left. "But I'm short. And that's not what I meant."
Bardos had to say something that he freed himself, because two cafes were closed for caffeine. They decided to take a snack at the nearby restaurant and shut them home again. Then Bardos confirmed that his birthday celebration was late, and he went back to his house to go to the guests of his wife, who had heard about the night about the woman he had met.
As he was injured by Cerato, at the age of 33 with Bardos, he knew he did not waste an endless relationship. So, on the second day, he decided to drop the "bomb".
Knowing Bardos was a comic book, Cerat's bumps softened the superhero sensitivities. "I'm not Algeria," he said, "but I'm a mutant."
In desperate Bardos, Cerato admitted he had not been a member of X-Men. However, it had a reason to share its radiation to treat lung cancer caused by a genetic mutation.
After two years, Cerate recently learned that cancer had spread and that the chances would not be in five years.
Bardos had the opportunity to make hikes, Cerato said. Bardos considered for a moment his dilemma: how does one fall in love with the loss of love?
In the face of illnesses with life or death risks, heart disease appears to be a secondary concern. But cancer may be a "litmus test" for a relationship – and many fail, said Dr. Robert Rutledge, Halifax Radiation Officer.
It is not uncommon for people to have close links, but with weddings, with partners, a loved one to face cancer and fight against proxy, to face their own death.
But while some couples are collapsing under the tension of the disease, Rutledge has said that emotional connections can be increased, among other things. At the end of their partners' closure, they appear to be close to those who deserve more time, he said.
Bardos said that he was falling from being a "mutant", to be a member of Cerato.
It was in autumn 2011. Seven years later, Bardos and Cerato were married, they had a house, they traveled to the world and celebrated "25 years of age", during their condensed time of adaptation of their romantic love.
Before knowing Cerato, Bardos said that he was thinking about the past, looking to the future. Now, Bardos said he could plunge him into that moment, so he can spend it.
"He was a better person, because he was very fast," he said.
At the age of 40, Cerato said survival statistics were due to the latest developments in the therapeutic gene therapy. But knowing that he was finishing his time, he decided at least what he had lived and who could not.
"I'm sorry, somehow, that it was a gift that was 30 and 60."
Edmonton's Morgan McNeely, a 25-year-old who arrived at the age of 25 a month before he arrived, knew that he had a terminal-4-colon cancer.
After making his diagnosis in 2015, McNeely discovered without his education, his scientific research and his restaurants and gave little confidence.
Suddenly, he had free time in his hands, so a friend decided to go through Tinder.
McNeely dismissed some of the propositions that helped him to jump over his "sex tape" list.
He did not want to express his love, because he had broken the last man because of "cancer drama", but his Tinder games were persistent and the dates began.
After losing so much, McNeely was afraid of leaving fear. But he said: "I see more than cancer." And soon, McNeely also saw.
"I feel lucky every day, because of it," he said. "I do not have happy cancer, but I still appreciate what it has brought to me."
However, McNeely said that the disease can complicate a relationship. When he and his boyfriend got a cat together, McNeely said he should consider whether or not to take care of the pet without it. When they talk about marriages, they die when their deaths are due to their illness.
This is in many cases cancer patients with cancer: their main concern is not death itself, but will have the love that they will leave behind.
Julie Easley's tension is well-known, not only as a scientist, as research is aimed at young people with cancer, but as a survivor of the loss.
Easley met Randy Cable in a bar at Fredericton in 2004, feeling the instantaneous fire of confession. At the age of 28, Easley's life was recently given to Hodgkin's lymphoma on stage 2. Cable said, after he was 29, he had been diagnosed with colon cancer for three months. That day, however, was exhausted.
Since then, he has been beloved for a long time.
Easley knew how to deal with cancer. He was investigating the cable while he was being treated, and he started working after that.
One night, Cable was afraid to sleep, so he could enter heart at any time. Easley was ready to continue breathing. He went to bed with him and placed his hand on his chest, up and down. After that, he slept more than holding his hands during the night.
Sometimes, he feels like a "normal" couple. To entertain themselves, a television screen reflects on their room in their apartment image room.
"You are in the power of the mind and the beauty of the human mind when you are in your weakest state," he said. "I fell in love".
Easley said that the cable was a bit of a time to realize that it was more than "sleeping with the girl". Easley first told Cable when he loved it, he was silent. She told her mother that she was never in love with the greatest regret, according to Easley, but she proved badly. "I love you too," he said, tearing his eyes.
In February 2005, after one year of age, it was clear that the end was near. The cable's friends and relatives gathered in bed and asked Easley to raise him. At this moment, instead of embracing her, he embraced her arms at the age of 31.
Thirteen years later, Easley continues to notice the memory of the cable through the work done in the adult cancer community, and he reminds us of it.
"If you ever want to know the value of life, you spend some time looking for scrap metal," said Easley. "I knew I would end it in the end. I did not know the part is an unexpected beauty that happened inside."