I am in a therapeutic therapeutic therapy when I sit down. This is "Circle of experience exchange" 20 people. For all of us, except for the advisor who is the session, I am younger than five years old, and here they are trying to get here restore life among those who lost control.
They have made the worst thing they shared with the team, they expect to change.
One of the groups, Eva *, 19, is reading a list of all journals Its behavior has affected most people He wants.
"One: a few months ago, he told me that parents do not want to," he said. "I said a lot of them when I was scared."
"Two: last year, I cried my boyfriend I wanted to make a suicide".
The list goes on. Eva describes many things he thinks he has worsened: he conceals his feelings, is a perfectionist and does not lack discipline, he says. It does not wash your teeth. It does not sport. Sometimes I do not shower.
I'm impressed by Eva's honesty and, at the end of the conference, I'm sorry for him.
Kyra, the director of the session, goes to the circle.
"Who commented?" He said. "Ethan *".
Ethan, a 17-year-old boy with tight jeans, becomes Eva. I ask you if you would like to offer some help words.
"I try to say something obvious:" Good intervention or whatever, "says Ethan, cutting his face on his hair." What were the effects of your perfectionism? It's a bad thing if you take it to the ends, but did you really do it? Is your life unnecessary? "
"I think so," Eva answered carefully. The feet cross underneath the chair and looks from one person to another. Twenty eyes are silent.
She looks around Kyra. "What do you think of the feelings?"It requires a room.
It's a step Then another teenager, Thomas *, breaks silence.
"I think it's joining your perfectionism with the victim. You do not realize that you made mistakes, that you fulfill the role of the victim. "
my the phone shakes. I recall that I have not looked at it for a moment and I have to repeat the consciousness of consciousness. I feel my breath as I look at Eve.
At first I think it's a lie. My phone shakes again. I take it out of my pocket without thinking of it, and I immediately put it in his place.
But Eva does not cry. He does not say anything. He looks at the room silently. It is not necessarily an unpleasant one: it's really raging.
Kyra becomes a group.
"Who feels self-punishment? "he says.
The room becomes "safe" and "completely".
"Would you like to change it?"Kyra asks Eva.
"Yes, I want to change," says Eva, a touch of indignation in the voice.
"Do you know that you have attracted attention behind your behavior?" Kyra tells Eva.
Silence goes through the room.
"Not yet," says Eva in a low voice. "But I will learn".
I came to Yes We Can two hours ago, a mental health center located in a long boulevard filled with trees, in a village in the south of the Netherlands. When the taxis came close to the important black doors, the trees kept large farmhouses and kept them well.
In the video game you can make blocks that are pixelated Minecraft; or give a prize level Hitman.
This clinic is only available to people between the ages of 13 to 25 from around the world, including specialized treatment in mental health problems, including retention of computers and other smartphone problems and other health problems. less deal
Many people say it's their addiction correctrtphones, social networks or video games.
This year, for the first time, it was included in the initiative of the World Health Organization The video game dependence on international classification of diseases (CIE).
It can be said that the treatment of the clinic is much more than that: videogame puts drugs on reproductive health as a result of the damage caused by alcohol and games, and those who ask for their 10-week program everyone will abstain throughout life.
Smartphones and video games are addictive as long as discussions exist.
The creator Jan Willem Poot, 42, believes he is growing strongly. He saw the clinic in 2010 as a gap in the market and therefore launched the Dutch youth mental health center to offer young people a personalized treatment.
"I was inspired by the slogan Barack Obama campaign"he smiled.
It's just excitement. I think that your life has appeared against adolescence in the past I consumed a daily cocaine of eight grams.
In 2004, Willem was able to clean drugs and alcohol to overcome the mental health problems that the clinic created. That's why it was a surprise, the first youngsters to get to their clinic often called the famous Duty videogame call, not cocaine.
"Every week we will take a walk in the woods," says Willem's broad eyes. "And some children told us:" This is the way I am playing World of Warcraft & # 39; or Battlefieldor whatever. They thought that after all the trees or rocks, the enemy was buried, or that it was the whole army behind each hill. "
This retirement in the middle of the forest crosses the first group activities of the day through the doors. Thomas, the victim of Eve said, is not exactly enjoyable.
"So it's unstable!"
It is before the tenth anniversary. They are tied to security guard and leave them in the middle of a staircase in the woods.
"I can not do it! I hate the ups and downs.
Thomas kept tears. It's six meters from the ground, two steps from the tree platform. It's not far away, but it does not want to cross it.
"You can do it, Thomas!" James cries out in London.
Thomas goes down the stairs and faces his face. I came near. He breathes and the cheeks are red. I asked him why he came.
"Especially the addiction of the game," he says, without climbing arms. "But as a result of eating disorders, and perhaps pornographic dependence, it is still being debated."
Thomas is in his sixth week at the clinic. In the end it was the most difficult task to delete his video game accounts.
"I was sweating and started crying," he says. "Although it was a problem, I remember my stage with the games of video games and the people I met."
In the last six weeks, Thomas has learned enjoy outdoor activitiesWhen I played 16 hours I rarely lived.
Thomas, I am surprised, thinking, thinking, feeling strong and weaker. Some years older than 19 years away from home, over-drinking and holidays, could not be imagined a year ago.
Thomas takes the microphone and performs the perfect interpretation of Rag Rag in Eminem: some of the fastest six-minute, 1,500 rap rap verses.
The other kids cheer up all the time.
I think it's strange because they do not understand something about the karaoke.
Afterwards, I find it obvious: this is the group of teenagers and twentysomethings that is completely overwhelming, singing in a day-to-day publishing camp. At this time they are younger.
as young families wealth In order to pay a private treatment, those who receive foreign scholarships are lucky. People with disadvantaged backgrounds have a greater risk of developing mental health problems and have less chance of getting treatment.
The price is around $ 64,000.
Since we are approaching, we face all the West African youth mental health crisis.
It has been in recent years Anxiety and depression disorders have increased.
An investigation by the London Institute of Education Policy suggests that the number of visits to childhood and adolescent mental health services in the United Kingdom has increased by 26% in the last five years.
Jean Twenge is suspected of having a common denominator. In his iGen's book, psychologists argue that adolescents' behavior and emotional state have been dramatic changes in 2012.
That year, he wrote, it was also the proportion Americans owned by super smart phonesor 50%.
The youngsters are "at the edge of the worst" mental health crisis In the decades, "he wrote"[y] Disaster can be accessed by much more. "
Twenge found correlation to increase the use of smartphones and increase depression and loneliness among young people.
In 2007, when iPhone was launched in 2007, young Americans suffered socialization, dating and sex decline.
Teens have more time than ever, he wrote. "So what are you doing all the time?" They are looking for their mobile phones, in their own room, alone and often in a hurry.
However, no one agrees. Dr. Pete Etchells teaches Jean Twenge's lecture on Psychology at the University of Spa in Bath, UK The connection between smartphones and depression, but that does not affect the other.
We see the danger of mental healthcare that is not compromised by mental health.
Good research computer dependency or smartphoneThere are still social networks that are confusing by video games and are still in the analysis phase.
"In the case of consuming cocaine or heroin, we see clearly the harm they cause," he says.
"However, the research on addictive video games does not work well among the people involved, but it does not hurt anybody, and people with these problems."
If Dr. Etchells is correct, I ask? Maybe there is a risk of overdiagnosis. I've had a lot of young people with serious problems in this visit. Are you sick enough & # 39;? And yet, how do you know that someone is "sick enough"?
And then I sat down to interview Ethan, who had been in the clinic for almost 10 weeks. He is a friend and charismatic, he is completely different, when he says, when he arrived.
"I was afraid of everyone," he says.
Ethan speaks to me of all the honest people I know about him. Actually, what he did on the day he came to this clinic.
"I woke up at six in the afternoon," he says. "The night was awake. It is more comfortable. Less people around. When my parents were asleep, I went down and ate something. "
What happened when your parents found you? I asked her.
"Very easy," he says. "I did not see them".
Serious childhood trauma
My phone shakes again. WhatsApp messages are getting better. For a moment I am totally distracted. I focus my attention on Ethan.
Ethan spent a lot of time crying in his room. I had panic attacks. He hurt himself. He threw everything that fell into my hands and played games throughout the night. At the age of 15, He left school.
"I thought I was getting mad at life," he says.
At first Ethan's attitudes did not make sense. His parents were sensible, he says, but he did not know what to do.
Later, Ethan found that he was hiding something for everyone: he suffered severe childhood trauma.
The conversation is over. Ethan leaves the room. In my opinion, I found out that people could play exceptionally, though Ethan's encounters did not know how much I knew about the background.
Jan Willem hands in his hands. I check my own phone and I feel sorry when I see an empty screen. I imagined the vibrations. I am thousands do not cheat without help.
Is there a notification on your phone?I asked her. Jan Willem smiles.
"Yes, sure," he says.
Is it a sign of addiction? How do you protect children? I wonder.
"Sometimes we advise children to leave social networks," says Jan Willem. "But we never advise for complete abstinence."
WhatsApp and social networks
"That's why, in the world, they need their phones and laptops, I have a Facebook account and a LinkedIn account, especially when I use my business, and it's true that I'm addicted, but it's true that I have to use it."
I have my phone in my hand because I use the recorder that is burning the recorder. Screen illuminated. It's a notification and I know it's urgent to open it.
Why addicted to me? I hang up WhatsApp? If I did not work, did I spend several hours to send Snapchat's cars? And can not I transfer games, alcohol, drugs?
I look at Jan Willem and tried to imagine the life I'm eating eight grams a day.
*Some names have changed.
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